THE EFFECTS OF PATHOLOGICAL NARCISSISM/SOCIOPATHY ON THE TARGETED SCAPEGOAT OF A FAMILY WHO HAS SECRET ISSUES ELSEWHERE IN OTHER MEMBERS AND THE LENGTHS THEY WILL GO TO MANIPULATE THE TARGET’S CHILDREN.
Man … we lost this kid.
Someone remind her that her grandparents scapegoated her mother for all of the years of denial over her aunt and uncle (and their kids) with a huge cover up of criminal behavior that took everything her mother had .. and I mean everything (they even tried to take Evelynn, but that didn’t work out). This family took everything, left Amanda with cptsd, and then blackmailed and bribed Chelsea into taking an abrupt and sudden change after some nefarious issues came up regarding the things she was promised. She’s getting married and guess who wasn’t supposed to find out about it?
People do really awful things to the ones they are closest to, often without even realizing it. I’ve learned some pretty obvious stuff about myself through this, but from the very first matching dynamic I found in this situation in endless professional accounts of what this actually was, it was as if the last 25 years + were being dictated back to me after my wondering about WTF was going on turned into real researching regarding the clinical psychology of it all – why her sister’s husband was harassing her while her father begged her to save his job for him by doing what he should have been able to do if he was qualified … but more concerning was what would make a mother get as much enjoyment out of harming her own kid as I have seen and heard (things I was not suppose to see and hear) her mother do in all of the classic ways that sociopaths and people with pathological narcissism do. So much of it was actually criminal, but Amanda has been so beaten up by what her whole family has been manipulated into doing (along with some third parties) to her that she is not the same person and has been living under the obligation and fear that scapegoats always live under.
There is so much more – and a lot was documented, which always made Mary Ellen nervous …
At this point it’s pretty clear that Chelsea is being threatened financially if she speaks to her mother or anyone in my family … which is why I am writing this.
She discarded my mother and father after over 25 years of being her surrogate grandparents.
I cannot find any other reason that she would refuse to speak to or see them .. that is unless it’s just about greed, which unfortunately is very possible.